Monday, January 25, 2016

Book Review: Raising Grateful Kids in an Entitled World, written by Kristen Welch

Recently, I had the privilege of being apart of the launch team for Raising Grateful Kids in an Entitled World, written by Kristen Welch.  You may have heard of her....just scroll through Facebook and momma's everywhere have shared her post from her blog http://wearethatfamily.com/.  Her writing is real on her blog and in her book. 

There are books for raising babies, raising toddlers, but there are very few books about raising kids.  I need wisdom for raising these humans that call me mom and Kristen Welch provides that through this book. There is so much in this book that excites me, validates, me, encourages me, and convicts me.

In a society where everyone wins it is hard to rear kids that don't feel entitled.  Kristen shares her struggles, her triumphs, and charges us to parent upstream. 

As I read, I felt like I was having coffee with a best friend who is knee deep in this parenting mess, just like me and together we wrestled parenting topics. I love seeing how other people do life and she offers excellent application ides to help raise less entitled kids and more grateful ones. And she moves me to be a better mom. 

If you are knee deep in parenting this book releases tomorrow.   I can't recommend this enough and I know I will read it again and again. 

My one word this year is transform and this book will help me transform my parenting. 




Back to Crossfit!!


 Due to my OCD tendencies, having a clean house is vital for me and for my family.  I tend to go off the deep end when the dust bunnies look like they are creating an army,  when the toothpaste in the sink takes over, or when the toilet no longer looks white.  I have been working enough hours that we have been able to budget in some wonderful ladies who conquered my mess for me and eased the anxiety that messy creates in me.  (By the way I envy those with houses that are lived in, I envy those who can leave things undone...but this is not what this post is about, I digress)

Despite my OCDness, I have chosen to make a sacrifice and become the housekeeper again. (Even the kids are making some sacrifice in this area for something they want to do and will be helping clean as well, however on heavy cleaning  day I am hoping to find some friends who want to have house cleaning parties once a month....with 2 or 3 of us we could knock out each other's houses before the kids get home from school!!! Who's in??)

As I have been focusing on the word transform, I can't help but recall the transformation being in crossfit brought to my life.  Here is a picture of progress I made! 





It is not just these physical changes that make me miss the impact of crossfit, it is also the changes spiritually, emotionally, and mentally.  I miss the community, the encouragement, the push, the competition with myself, and the lessons I learned.

Therefore I am sacrificing house cleaning for crossfit!!!

With all my injuries and asthma I will have to modify a lot!! I am not where I was in these pictures...the last few years was a lot health wise, but I know I will make good progress again.  I have been making a lot of statements about not being able to participate in crossfit due to these challenges and my health, but with modifications it can happen.  What I really meant was we can't really afford it, but with the sacrifice of getting my house clean we can make it work.

I very much love working out at my current gym and will continue to use it and my yoga videos, but I am thrilled to say I am officially part of a crossfit community again!!!


Combine this with the gym, yoga, a 10,000 step goal (I wont lie this is not always easy), Weight Watchers, and Jesus I know I will transform.

One Word.

One Year.

Transform.






Wednesday, January 13, 2016

Candy Land and Weight Loss

Have you ever played Candy Land?   You play by flipping over cards that tell you where to go on the path, your goal is to be the first to reach the Candy Castle.  There are few shortcuts on the path, there are also a few places that you get stuck and you miss a turn, there are even times you draw a card and must go backward,  further away from the Candy Castle.





My weight loss journey reminds me of this game.  I keep flipping over cards that tell me how to get to my Candy Castle, AKA my health, cute clothes, and a smaller waist line.   I have felt like without the cards telling me where to move I can not get to the end.  I have flipped over cards that have gotten me stuck, cards that have given me a shortcut to my goal, only to have me go back to the start.  Playing the game of Candy Land can seem to take forever....playing the weight loss game can too.

The cards in my weight loss game have been various diets, trying out for Extreme Weight Loss, carb cycling, Crossfit, Paleo,  knee surgeries, dental issues, more various diets,  thyroid surgery, asthma issues, trainers, everyone's 2 cents, ect.....constantly flipping over the cards, but never seeming to get to the finish line.  Some of the short cut diet cards have been great. I have come so close to the finish that I tasted health and it was good. I want that back!!  The Crossfit card was AMAZING.  I really miss that card.  I have met some fantastic people because of the cards that were played.  I have felt that I needed cards to tell me what to do, which path to take, and I have felt that I can't do this on my own. 

Although some of these cards would have been great...like making the show,  staying in Crossfit, or being able to pay someone to train and help me, none of it would work unless I did the work!!!!
  
I have come to the realization that I can keep flipping cards and searching for the right path to my Candy Castle or I can stop flipping cards,  pick a path, and take it.

My one word this year is transform.  I am never going to transform in this area if I just keep flipping cards.

By continually turning over cards food, dieting, and searching for a path has become an idol in my life. My thoughts have been consumed with what do I do, what do I eat, what I should and should not have, and that I needed someone to help me. It was keeping me from moving forward, but I must admit it was also my excuse.

I know that I can do all things through Christ, but I also know I am required to stop making excuses and take action.  Stay on a consistent path.  Walk it, don't try to go around it.  Obstacles are going to come, but I have to stay the course. 

With that said, the path I have chosen is Weight Watchers.  I love my fitness pal, however mentally, and spiritually right now,  I need the freedom of not counting most veggies and fruit.   We each have to do what works for us.  What we will stick too.  I may make changes down the road, but right now  this is my consistent path with food.  I joined before Christmas to see the new program before I took serious action.  I changed my weigh in days to Monday to help hold myself accountable over weekends, and on 12-28-15 I stopped flipping cards. In the last 2 weeks I have lost 8.7 pounds.  I am thrilled with this and feel like food and dieting is not consuming my thoughts.

I also plan on continuing to hit the gym, get in at least 10,000 steps  (I am changing my goal on my Fitbit now before I keep typing, however it also needs to be charged, so this may not occur today), and I am adding DDP yoga.  I will be doing my second video for this today.  

And last, but for me the most important key is to continuing to grow in Christ, because I can not transform without Him.


Now that I have picked a card and plan on sticking with it , I can almost taste my Candy Castle... health, cute clothes, and a smaller waist line.


One Word.

One Year.

Transform.


Friday, January 1, 2016

Transform

Two years ago I threw out the idea of making New Year's  resolutions.  My list of goals only seemed to be ideas in my head.  I rarely wrote them down and if I did by the end of the year, I mean January, most of them were forgotten or not accomplished.  When I quit the idea of resolutions, I began to focus on one word for the year.  In 2014 my word was CHASE.  In 2015 my word was BE.  In 2016 my word is TRANSFORM. 

According to Webster Transform means:  to change in composition or structure,  to change the outward form or appearance of,   to change in character or condition.

While this may sound like a specific goal, its not. It is a word that will journey with me through the year.  Who know what will change, but I look forward to unfolding this word in 2016.

With that said, I do have a few ideas of things I would LIKE to see transform over the next 365 days:

I am OCD, however in some areas it is an out of sight out of mind kind of thing.  One area that I would love to change the appearance of, is the clutter that has taken over my cabinets, my drawers, my fridge, and many other nooks and crannies.  Do you see the bend in that shelf??  I seriously need to transform my clutter!!!!



 I would also like to transform these areas:


(collage made with WORDSWAG)
I want to continue to learn more about putting words together, therefore transforming my writing.  I would love the appearance of our finances to change.  And of course I want to continue to transform my health - (that's a blog post coming soon).
 
 
I also pray that I transform to be more like Jesus.
 As I focus on this theme/this word I look forward to what God will do as I dive onto His word with my new bible and begin 2016.
 
Focusing on one word for one year takes the guilt out for me.  There is no specific goal, just one word, for one year. I can't wait to see what transforms.
 
 
 
 
 


Thursday, December 3, 2015

Be Joyful

Be.
One word. One year.

Almost two years ago I moved from New Years resolutions (not that I really made any...if I did I certainly didn't keep them)  to focusing on one word for one year.  I am absolutely sold on this concept. Seriously, if you haven't read the book, you should!!    It came from the book called One Word That Will Change Your Life by Jon Gordon, Dan Briton, and Jimmy Page.

I love the meaning of the word BE!!

According to Merriam-Webster be is,
—used to indicate the identity of a person or thing
—used to describe the qualities of a person or thing
—used to indicate the condition of a person or thing

According to Dictionary.com be means to exist or live.

I chose to focus on a different BE every month:

Be disciplined
Be intentional
Be fighting
Be focused
Be resilient
Be honest
Be thankful
Be listening
Be still
Be consistent
Be present


I almost feel sad writing this post, I have spent an entire year with this word. How do I end my year with this word??  This. Is. It.  My last focus. I can't believe it is almost time to pick a new word!!! I am very excited about praying for a new one for 2016, but a lot happened in 2015 with this word!!!  It is a little hard to think about leaving it....and there are so many things I want to be....how do I pick a focus for this month??

It has been hard to pick one!!!  This has actually been the hardest one to pick.   I almost didn't make a choice...I was just going to focus on the word BE itself and what it means, but after thinking about it more today I did choose.

It sounded so cliché' to pick it, but I think it is a great focus amongst the hustle and bustle of December.  

My focus for December, my last focus for 2015 is BE joyful. 

This month is filled with so much to do..... it can be stressful.  It can be so stressful that we miss moments, moments that should be filled with joy.  Moments to remind our kids about Jesus.  Moments to soak up those favorite times of baking cookies.  Moments to give and serve. Moments to fellowship with others. 

So, this month I want to be in the moments!!   I don't want to get wrapped up in the stress and busyness of this month....I have so many reasons to be joyful!!


One word. One year.

Be.

Wednesday, November 4, 2015

Be Disciplined

I am 4 days behind getting my focus for the month out!!!!  I only have one more focus for 2015!!!  That blows my mind!! How did that even happen??

My focus for November is to be disciplined.

I chose this focus because,  I signed up for a training online that I am very excited about.  I want to be disciplined to use the training, which means I need to be disciplined in my time management. 

Of course I want to carry over some of the things I wanted to be intentional about from last month, but this month I want to be disciplined to manage my time, to learn something new, and put what I learn to use.


"It was character that got us out of bed, commitment that moved us into action, and discipline that enabled us to follow through. " ~ Zig Ziglar


This month I want to follow through!. 

Be.

Be Disciplined.




Friday, October 2, 2015

Be Intentional

All things pumpkin, apple, hot tea, coffee, cooler weather, leaves changing, camping, baseball season coming to an end, football going in the background, shorter days, longer nights, light jackets, maybe even jeans. 

Fall.

I love fall.  I love each season. 

October came fast though!! Really fast.  Normally, I have an idea of what my next month's focus will be, this month, not a clue.  I thought about it yesterday and toyed with some ideas, but today it was given to me.

Last month I focused on be fighting.  This focus helped keep me calm in the craziness of yet another surgery.  It also taught me a lot about prayer.  I will continue to be fighting.  I am healing well from my surgery and I am so thankful that I can report the nodule was benign!!!!!  I am so thankful that Jesus kept me calm and answered that prayer.  The nodule was pressing on my trachea, so I am also thankful it is out!!  I can even workout as tolerated now!!!  We will check my thyroid levels in a few weeks. Check your neck y'all!!! 

During my downtime I have spent a lot of time alone, reading, watching Gilmore Girls (how did I never watch this show before??), sleeping, and relaxing.  It has been restful, but I confess it has been lonely as well.  I have checked Facebook a lot!

One of the books I am reading is Simply Tuesday by Emily P. Freeman, she writes about friendship in one of her chapters and as I read I felt relief to know I am not alone.   I am like her, I know a lot of people and have many acquaintances.  I can make an acquaintance just about anywhere. Her words that convicted me the most were "I could either continue as I was, waiting for people to show up and surround me, or I could decide to move myself toward people."  I often sit around waiting for people.  My husband has heard me complain a lot about my lack of people.

As an adult making connecting friendships is hard.  We are all so busy with our routines, homes, work, kids, family, and at the end of the day instead of putting an effort into friendships we crash into our beds with our books, our reality TV, and our Facebook.  This seems easier than risking putting yourself  out there, even though you desire to connect. I like Facebook, but it really is the lazy way of being friends. Don't get me wrong I have a friend in my inner circle, but I believe God wants that circle to grow and not just in the number of friends I have on Facebook.   For that circle to grow, I have to be intentional.

So that is this month's focus to be intentional.

Emily P. Freeman says, "The truth is, people need our with-ness. They don't need for us to impress them with how spiritual we are. They need to know they aren't alone."  For people to know they are not alone we have to be intentional about sharing with them and spending time with them.

I have many other things I need/want to be intentional about, so this month's focus is about that too.

I need to be intentional about my diet on the weekends.  I do fairly well on the weekdays, but weekends are tough.  And I haven't done well since I had surgery. 

I need to be intentional about time with my kids, my husband. 

I need to be intentional about organizing those papers, cleaning out that closest. 

I need to be intentional with workouts, even more than workouts, stretching!! 

I need to be intentional about my faith. 

I want to be intentional about scrapbooking. 


What do you need to be intentional about?? 



Be.

Be Intentional!!